In the last couple of days I've had some interesting exchanges on Twitter with a range of folk surrounding gay marriage here in the UK. The debate has profoundly affected me - as all debate should. A big part of my engaging in it was to work out exactly what my position is.
I figured since it's very easy for those entrenched on either side of the debate to paint those on the other side in rather ungenerous terms, I should set out my position in a form of media that allows more than 140 characters per post.
First and foremost, I am a Christian, and Bible-following one at that (in that I attempt as much as humanly possible not to pick'n'choose the bits of the Bible that suit me). Hence as the Bible does tell us all sexual activity outside heterosexual marriage is sinful, homosexual activity must fall in that bracket (as do many heterosexual acts), and I am forced to conclude that - uncomfortably.
However, that said, it does not mean that I hate gay people, or that I would wish they have a more difficult life, or a worse set of circumstances than I. Christians must in their actions reflect that although they characterise homosexual activity as sinful, they themselves are thoroughly sinful and are saved only by the grace of God. So no judging others is permissible, and furthermore there is no reason why the apparatus of the state ought to be used to favour Christians over any other group in society.
The difficulty with that latter statement is that it is very difficult indeed to ensure the state is balanced in its favouritism towards particular groups - and in reality, the government of the day simply appeals to whichever groups have the most political power.
Nonetheless, the principle is clear - the government should not necessarily thus pass legislation outlawing particular behaviours the Bible declares as sinful - clearly (for example) murder is a different category entirely in that all moral codes, be they biblical or otherwise declare murder to be wrong.
Hence there is no reason why homosexual couples (and long-term/stable heterosexual ones living out of wedlock) should be deprived the legal rights afforded to married couples - and for this to be the case is, to my mind, wrong. There ought to be full equality before the law of all these types of couples - the law shouldn't be judging whether one type of couple is more acceptable than any other.
But my sense is this. That equality before the law can be achieved without redefining marriage in the way proposed. If, instead, any remaining flaws in the civil partnerships legislation were ironed out, surely that would have the same effect.
However, having said that, one particular exchange on Twitter, along with observing
David Cameron's reflections on gay (and lesbian - as later clarified...) teenagers "standing taller", suggests to me that something radical like that being proposed is necessary. It's horrible that homosexual youngsters (and older folk) feel vilified, get bullied and thus feel themselves to be on the fringes of society - it's a horrible outpouring of a fallen and sinful world that this kind of thing happens - sinners bullying fellow sinners.
Hence do we need something drastic like this redefinition of marriage to start to challenge long-accepted social norms and attitudes? As an economist I think of a very different situation that perhaps acts as some kind of analogy. Some economists argue that it took making the Bank of England independent in 1997 - a seemingly drastic move - to jolt inflation expectations down from their 1970s and 1980s levels. Evidence suggests it did, even though in essence the monetary policy being implemented (inflation targeting) didn't change. Maybe it's the same for how we perceive homosexuality, and particularly amongst younger folk as well as Christians - we're all made in the image of God, hence wonderfully beautifully created yet sinful.
Perhaps we do, but perhaps then we also need to think yet more radically about marriage, the church and the state. The church has its definition of marriage, contained in the Bible. That is something the government cannot change no matter how powerful it thinks it is. And by trying to change this, it is surely going to meet with fierce resistance from Christian groups. Yet the government can change the state's definition of marriage should it wish to.
So instead of messy compromises (banning the Church of England from carrying out gay marriages), why not simply do as happens in other countries (e.g. France, Canada), where the marriage officially takes place in a registry office according to the laws of the land? This way the church's definition of marriage needn't change. There'd be no more signing of the registry (formally) at a church wedding, but is that really so much of an issue? The church ceremony would thus have no legal or public setting and hence (hopes) thus wouldn't be the focus of a test case by anyone wishing to have a church wedding whom a church determines is inappropriate to given their definition of marriage.
The final reflection I want to make is that compared to a group which until recently its behaviour was considered illegal (homosexuals), it seems churlish and hard to fathom that Christians whine about the difficulties equal marriage will cause them. The fear is of churches and registrars being prosecuted for failing to carry out a public duty - marrying a couple asking to be married. A fair sounding response is - why is it an issue, it's not like the Christians are forced to be IN the homosexual marriage.
The response, of course, of the Christian to that critique is much longer and more nuanced. For the church the problem is clearer - if that church is a bible-adhering church, then to be allowing gay marriages in its premises has to be viewed as giving approval to such actions - but clearly such a contradiction cannot be permitted if the church also teaches the bible's sexual ethics and wants to avoid being labelled hypocritical. The principle has to be the same for the Christian registrar: How can they in their daily work give permission for things that lead to them being hypocritical when, say, they talk to their children in the evening, or to other friends?
Outside the Christian cocoon, such "preaching" - essentially telling others that according to someone's moral code their actions are "wrong" - is not the done thing. Yet the Bible tells believers that they must engage in that - with sensitivity and with God's love (Jesus's approach with the woman at the well is perhaps a good example). So a Christian cannot live out their faith if they must be suppressed and forced into particular actions that are contrary to Christian teachings in their daily work life.
Now, of course, relative to having your actions declared illegal, forcing some Christians to change profession in order to be able to act with what they see to be integrity is mild - but if another way exists to ensure homosexual couples get all the legal (and social) recognition they should get, shouldn't we explore that?
The final final point this leads on to is the parallels with racism that are often labelled at Christians. On this, my only thought is that this relates to choice. We have no choice over the race we are born into, and the Christian is told in the Bible we are all created equal regardless of race, sex, age, etc. However, we have a choice about what to do about our sexual attractions. The Christians in a heterosexual relationship contemplating sex face the same pressure the Christian with same-sex attractions do - the Bible says it's wrong. The choice is not easy in either case - and it seems inherently wrong for God to determine that one of those couples can get married and have sex, yet the other cannot. At that point I can't go any further other than to say it's a crux point where some decide against God, and others decide to submit to God's reasoning on this, despite how hard it is. But it remains the case that choices are being made here, and hence the parallel with racism I don't think is appropriate.
Just some thoughts I've been having on what is a remarkably thorny issue. Please do comment - I would like discussion. I am a Christian but that doesn't mean I don't reason or think or have compassion - as hopefully this post makes clear.